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D/s and M/s Discussion Group – Negotiating the Relationships

February 25 @ 7:00 PM - 9:00 PM

We talk about negotiation a lot in our lifestyle, but the discussion is mostly about negotiating a scene. What are we going to do, what do we need to know, what is the intent? Scene starts, scene ends, after care, check in later. Easy, right? (No, not really.)

Negotiation can be broken down into three major questions, for both parties:

  • What do you want/need?
  • What do you have to offer?
  • How are we going to do this?

We don’t always take the same care and go to the same level of detail in our relationships. But we can ask those same questions (with all the other questions each one generates) in negotiating a relationship. The questions are more complicated, of course, there may be a lot more of them, and the duration of a relationship is much longer than that of a scene.

If you are in a relationship now, how did you negotiate? What did you wish you had known at the time about what questions to ask? If you’re just starting a new relationship, what do you need to know?

Please join us for this discussion and bring your questions, your experiences, and your advice.

This is a discussion group for anyone interested in Dominant/submissive or Master/slave relationships (often called “Authority Based” or “Power Exchange” relationships).

Relationships are difficult enough in the vanilla world, right? But we decided to add roles and orientations, rules, protocols, rituals, training, discipline, and other dynamics to make it even more complicated! What were we thinking?

What we were thinking, of course, is that adding these things to a relationship can clarify expectations, provide structure, and improve communications. And that’s a good thing.

If you are in a authority based relationship; if you’re considering entering into such a relationship; or if you’re curious about D/s and M/s relationships and dynamics; please join us on the fourth Monday of every month for conversation and support in navigating the complexities of this lifestyle.

We meet at the Denver Sanctuary. The door opens at 6:46 PM, and the discussion runs from 7:00 to 9:00. We’ll have a topic each month, but there will also be time for open discussion.

There is no cost for the group, but a $5 donation to help cover utilities, beverages, and snacks is always very much appreciated.

If you need the address to the Denver Sanctuary please send a text message to Love Slave at 720-989-3283.

The Denver Sanctuary is a PRIVATE MEMBERSHIP Social club for people who are curious about or practice BDSM. All play parties require membership to attend. New Member Orientation is offered at SOME, NOT ALL, of the play party events. Please check the website for more details on membership and when orientations are offered.

Membership is NOT required to attend any of the discussion groups, meetings or classes offered at the Sanctuary.


The D/s and M/s Discussion Group is sponsored by Colorado Leather Fest.



February 25
7:00 PM - 9:00 PM
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The Denver Sanctuary
Denver, CO United States


Colorado Leather Fest


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